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Anonymous asked:

Hello. I am a comedian living in Toronto, Ontario. Life is pretty cool except for the fact that THERE IS A SUPER COOL GAL THAT I WANT TO BE FRIENDS WITH BUT SHE LIVES ON THE OTHER SIDE OF THE CONTINENT HELP WHAT DO I DO?

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Hmm, you’re a comedian you say? You’re bound to travel across the country doing sets for 50 bucks a pop sooner or later right?

I say work on that craft of yours, master it, network and make your way on over to LA— the entertainment capital of the world. Then hey, maybe you two can meet up and write together and make comedy history. Cuz I know this girl you’re talking about— and she’s the funniest person she knows. (Aside from a certain pun master she’s acquainted with).

Until then, keep in contact as much as you can with as many social media formats as coherently possible and the rest will come naturally.

Good luck friend!!

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Anonymous asked:

So I've been dating this guy for close to 5 months now and he really loves me, but he wants commitment and I'm not comfortable with that. He and I are complete opposites and I can't open up to him without him taking everything personally. Then I have my best friend who listens to me really well and I'm close to him and he likes me. I love them both but I don't want to hurt either one and I know I can't have both. I just don't know what to do.

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One thing that caught my eye is in your first sentence: “…and he really loves me…" To me, that seems like it’s a one-way street. You didn’t say "I really love him" or "we really love each other.” So I don’t really think you’re THAT interested in this fellow. I can be wrong, I don’t know the specifics of your guys’ relationship, but maybe this is something you should think about.

If you are more compatible with your BFF, and it’s driving a wedge between you and your boyfriend’s relationship— it seems like you’re just not that into him (your BF). If you truly loved this guy, nothing would come between you two. Maybe you’re just not happy with him, and that’s totally okay. Maybe it’s time to part.

It’s great that you have a best friend who can be everything you want— that’s pretty hard to find. Would you be willing to put your friendship on the line for a romance that may or may not work? It’s tricky business, let me tell you. Once you cross that boundary from platonic to romantic, your friendship may never go back to being the same if it doesn’t work out.

Think wisely about it,

Bee

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Anonymous asked:

Hey I was wondering, what do you do when your friends openly make plans in front of you without inviting you and what does it mean?

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It means they are rude friends. They would only do that out of spite or to try to push you out of the group by making you feel unwanted. If they agreed to do something they knew you wouldn’t like, then that is understandable, but their mistake was doing it in front of you and not privately. But if they planned something common that everyone would like, say coffee or pizza, then they have some sneaky reason for not inviting you.

If it’s seriously bothering you, have a calm talk with one of them, just to see what the heck that was all about.

Hope this helps!

Bee

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Anonymous asked:

Hi, im currently in a relationship. I have been seeing this guy for nearly three months now, and i was just wondering if it is normal to start having doubts. Whenever i think about it, i start to get all these thoughts about how our relationship is and then i feel guilty for having those thoughts, like i shouldn't be. So far the relationship is going well, there hasn't been any problems but sometimes i feel as though im starting to over think things alot

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Hi there!

This is totally normal. I was the same during my relationship and there will be many men and women after you who will think these same thoughts.

Even if someone’s relationship is going perfectly, they would most likely step back and think, “Wow this is too perfect, something must be wrong.” You know?

It’s normal to have thoughts, good or bad, about something that’s taking up a lot of your time. It’s good to think about those things. It’s better than blissfully ignoring your thoughts and thinking everything is perfect.

Over-thinking can be the death of us. If there’s no need to over-think— then don’t! If everything seems to be going well, just enjoy it for now. This is most likely the result of your brain going into defense mode. It’s just trying to protect you, but sometimes it can be a little overbearing— like a parent, lol.

Hope this helps,

Bee

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Anonymous asked:

Do you think I should ask my crush out to pre-celebrate his birthday though he has a girlfriend now? Will it seem like it's very obvious and needy that I still like him..?

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I think if you two are mature enough adults, you could have a successful birthday celebration together. You can ask him out as a FRIEND. And that’s it. You don’t want to step on the girlfriend’s toes. Maybe not have it be just the two of you? He might get the wrong idea. If you two have mutual friends maybe invite them to cushion the situation.
Also— be prepared for a “no” when you ask him. Don’t set your hopes too high. If he declines, just tell him that it’s cool and that you wish him a happy birthday. No big.

Hope this helps,
Bee

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Anonymous asked:

I am 15. My boobs are relatively small( like really really small) do you have any tips on how to make your boobs bigger?

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One tip is to just wait until they finish growing. Another tip is to love yourself the way you were created. Besides, you’re 15, you still have time for them to sprout more.

I tried stuffing my bra when I was about 13 and it was just ridiculous. It didn’t last long. I just imagined someone seeing the paper poke out of my bra and I would be known as the girl who stuffed her bra. I couldn’t handle that emotionally so I just decided to own what I had. I still have small ones to this day. And I’m glad.

My friends who have huge boobs hate them. It’s hard for them to wear cute tops and they get backaches. Having big ones ain’t worth it in my book.

If you really want to give the impression that you have boobage, maybe try a water bra? Or some fancy cushiony Victoria’s Secret bra?

They’ll come in. You’re probably just a late bloomer or a slow grower— and there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that.

We’ve all got em. Just different sizes. :)


Hope this helps!
Bee

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Anonymous asked:

hi. i never do this, but im the type of person who hides their feelings or at least tries her best. but this dude came in my life, most people dislike/hate him but i think i really fell for him. he goes to a lot of parties and talks about sex a lot(im a virg) & we used to ditch almost every class to people's houses & smoke. it was a blast ngl. he gave me flowers on valentines day and used to text/msg me a lot. like he was more clingy than i was and i loved it. i really fucking liked him, but he

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started talking to me less and less, i have no idea why. and thats when i realized how attached i was, so i got scared. a couple weekends ago he asked me to hang out i said yea sure, but when he called me “babe” i stopped texting him completely after that, since he only talked to me every few days. its been like 2 weeks since ive talked to him. ive been high almost nonstop since, bc when im sober i cant stop thinking about him. i have math class with him and it hurts to look in his direction. idk this might only be a big deal for me because i usually shut myself off from caring about people so it hurts a lot. i dont know wether to just move on since it felt like he was leading me on towards the end.. to try talking to him again or wtf. idk. this feeling really fucking sucks. i guess im just not used to it…

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It’s okay to shut your feeling off sometimes. But not all of the time. Sometimes you might shut them off for the right people and never know it. It’s a defense mechanism, I understand. That’s what you’re used to, that’s who you are.

But it couldn’t hurt to let someone in some time. You never know what could happen. You could be enlightened to a new sense of self, learn a bunch of life lessons (especially about people), or you can create some memories along the way (even with someone special).

If you keep to yourself too much and for too long, you might feel more alone than you should. And that’s never fun.

However, if your red flag was waving and you felt this guy was just leading you on, he probably was. Females (at least that’s what I think your gender is) have a great intuition. If something isn’t right, our gut kicks in and gives us a little warning.

It couldn’t hurt to be his friend. Maybe give him some sort of “test” or a trial run (platonically) where he can prove to be someone you actually WANT to let in. You know?

Hope this helps,

Bee

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Anonymous asked:

I had sex for the first time on the 14th of February and it is now March 9th. Before I had sex I had my period about 2 weeks before February 14th (so Janurary 20-25). I don't usually keep track of my period which is bad but I know that I could be irregular sometimes. we used a Trojan condom, he didn't even go all the way in cause it hurt and he didn't "come". when he took the condom off there was nothing in it. Ive been stressed for the last 2 weeks due to bf probs and now this. am I pregnant?

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No no, you are most definitely not pregz. Stress however DOES push your period further away. Stress does ugly things to the body. And if you used a condom (good for you!) and there was no semen present, it would be impossible for a preg test to show up positive.

Don’t worry girl, it’s most likely the stress delaying your period. Rest easy knowing you are definitely not pregnant and let your period come naturally.

Hope this helps,

Bee

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Anonymous asked:

I feel so useless and unwanted. My boyfriend tells me that I am beautiful, pretty and amazing. He is the only guy who called me that. And the only person. And it's like my friends around me, people call them cute pretty hot sexy and what have you. And me? Nothing. I feel so worthless at times. I feel that my boyfriend deserve better.😪

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Hello!

If your boyfriend praises you for whatever reasons, shouldn’t that be enough? Why do you want constant reassurance from strangers who also think your friends are hot? So you can feel better at the end of the day? It seems like you are taking him and his compliments for granted. So don’t! :)

I’m single at the moment and I would ADORE a man of my own to tell me the sweet things your boyfriend is saying to you. Imagine if the shoe were on the other foot (or if you were in my position), you could be alone with no one to text at the end of the day. And that’s not always fun. OR you could take advantage of what your guy is saying to you and use that positivity as a self-esteem booster. Any praise is good praise— be grateful you receive it. :)

Hope this helps,

Bee

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Anonymous asked:

Me and this guy have confessed to each other last year . He is holding a high position in school and therefore have not ask me to be his Girlfriend because he wants to be a good role model. He says he wants to be with me soon. He makes me and happy and he doesn't makes me jealous. He tries very hard to make time for me too and I love him. But do he really love me? If he do, wouldn't he ask me to be his girlfriend and show me off?

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Hi!

I can see where you’re coming from— but don’t you think it sounds a little selfish of you? He makes time for you, he makes you happy and doesn’t tap into your insecurities. Sounds like you have a catch on your hands. It’s probably just not the right time for him to put you that high on a pedestal. He’s got his priorities and you should have yours too. If he really wants to be with you, he’ll come around. It just needs to be the right time for the both of you— not just you.

If this happens to continue for months to come, maybe it’s time to sit down and talk. But if he wants to be a good role model, you need to support that and be patient.

Wish you the best,

Bee

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Anonymous asked:

It hurts so bad seeing my crush not being happy in the relationship he has with that girl though he loves that girl so much , that girl just doesn't bother. My heart aches seeing him cry for her but I was the one who rejected him before he went to her , I have no rights to do anything.. Sigh I miss how we used to be cos I still love him as much as before.. What am I suppose to do..?

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If you don’t mind my asking, why did you turn him away?

If you loved him, I don’t see how you could do that. Unless it was a “I love you so much that I have to let you go” sort of thing, in which I could understand.

Maybe you should talk to him. Talk about why he is unhappy and what you could do to make it better. You never know what could come out of the conversation. He may realize this girl is not worth his time and leave her— finally being content again. If he is really sad and even crying over this girl, maybe a talk with a friend is just what he needs. He should express himself and let some stuff out. It is healthy. You’ll know what to do afterwards. Sometimes people just need someone to listen. Lend him an ear and see what happens.

Hope this helps,

Bee

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Anonymous asked:

is it easy giving advice? does it just come naturally to you?

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Most situations are easy to tackle. One, because of my personal experience and two, because I have an abundance of common sense. I mean, everyone has their own experiences and common sense — I’m no superhero, but sometimes people lack the clarity within certain situations because of emotions, etc. and that’s where I come in. I’m the outsider looking in and if I can help your situation, then I am happy. I just love helping people out.

However, some situations are tough and life-altering in major ways and that’s when it can get a little scary. Some things I have no idea how to handle, but I like to think it makes the visitors feel better that there is someone else out there that they can talk to.

Thanks for stopping by!

Bee

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Anonymous asked:

My crush who once confessed to me , now has a girlfriend. It hurts so much seeing him with her. What should I do? Should I let go or wait cos he's the first guy I've ever fell for and my friends all tell me that he'll truly love me back soon..

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Hello!

I’m sorry that had happened to you. That’s not cool.

If I were you, I wouldn’t wait around for him. Or anyone for that matter. If he “truly loves you,” he would be with you. Simple as that. There are plenty of others who will put you first— not tell you they like you then go date someone else. You don’t want somebody like that. Just let go and move forward with your life. :)

Hope this helps,

Bee